tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762659562724884497.post4523968180195325124..comments2016-02-02T01:00:08.257-08:00Comments on Life After Crazy Guy: The Hypocrisy of the NarcissistSoyonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11009903099554132224noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762659562724884497.post-18205146580270882592016-02-02T00:11:39.704-08:002016-02-02T00:11:39.704-08:00I can only confirm this - I thought my ex was bipo...I can only confirm this - I thought my ex was bipolar, with a dependant personality for some time. He always enjoyed playing the helpless victim, playing the victim. Being British and living a non-English-speaking country he always pretended the languge barrier was the problem, while he clearly managed the language ok when it suited him. Behind that facade of boyish charm and helplessness there was a cruel, abusive and highly egoistical person, always looking out for his own advantage, with little to no compassion. What I noticed first as "off" about him was his way of constantly breaching people's personal boundaries (possessions, time, space...) and above all the hypocrisy. He always told me that he believed masturbation and porn was very bad for men, and too much sex was the same, according to Tantra men should be abstinent most of the month. I went with this - grumpily, as we were newly in love - only to find that he had been watching a lot of porn. What drove it into my face was that had watched on MY computer. He also stalked other women on Facebook on my computer, including underage girls. He was an English teacher so he had easy access to teenagers. His porn history told me very clearly about his preferences, too. Teenagers all the way - he is 28, I am 34, and he knows I have always been a bit sensitive about the age gap... I didnt need to snoop into his computer, it was all out in the open! He clearly wanted me to see it. Once he even watched porn on a wall-mounted projector in the room next to my bedroom, knowing I could walk in any time, which I did once. He then went straight to gaslighting, became aggressive when I called out the hypocrisy and pointed out that he wasnt a real man. <br /><br />Having done a lot of research, I am sure he has a cluster B personality disorder, probably narcissist, or anyway with strong narcissist traits. I was thrown off for a long time by his outward demonstration of "niceness" you could call it, helplessness. <br /><br />Dont let yourself be fooled. Narcissists arent all confident and vane! My ex had relly found that this boyish innocence and helplessness helped him to find compassionate, caring people and made his life easier. He will be 29 this year and never has done any serious work, but has so far never lived on the streets. Not a bad achievement, thus...<br /><br />Be careful with Narcissts.<br />They are not bad people. Narcissits want to hide a weak self and inner emptiness, which is a result of the relationship patterns of their parents. Try not to hate them too much, but be aware that they are not good for people - unless they have understood their issues and are willing to do something about it. This can happen. However, Narcissts make the worst patients...Brigidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11947898882538840841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762659562724884497.post-72318922873577101412014-07-20T12:37:23.605-07:002014-07-20T12:37:23.605-07:00LOL! I love how easy it is to expose narcissists ...LOL! I love how easy it is to expose narcissists and other personality-disordered abusers -- simply talking about unacceptable behavior triggers it in them, amazing!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08329674611622666497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762659562724884497.post-58125142304642859732013-02-11T10:47:20.103-08:002013-02-11T10:47:20.103-08:00What the heck is this comment about? wow- who is ...What the heck is this comment about? wow- who is michelle b? geesh.Soyonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11009903099554132224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762659562724884497.post-89111873757128417232013-02-09T11:27:35.788-08:002013-02-09T11:27:35.788-08:00Take that, Michelle B. You Born-Again...telling e...Take that, Michelle B. You Born-Again...telling everyone at the company to read the Bible and live like you. Like you? Yeah, that was me who sent you a quote from the Bible ... because it described you! "Love is not jealous...does not parade itself..."<br /> I wonder if your husband ever knew you were competing with me and got all dolled up (including bright orange neon mini-dress) to flaunt in front of the guys? The guys who initially thought I was sexy and desirable. <br /> So keep going to church...flaunt yourself...and talk about the Bible all you want. You are a true hypocrite...and my husband knows the truth about you. I feel sorry for your daughter.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com