- I graduated from one of the most prestigious schools, got my bachelors and masters in engineering, had a promising career, and had wonderful, beautiful children. By all accounts and appearances, it would have appeared for a long time that I had a great, picturesque life, but underneath it all, I was married to someone who was diagnosed as being narcissistic. My nightmare started almost immediately after I married this person who was Jekyl and Hyde. I want to share my experiences and to let you know what I had to sacrifice and do to get away from this person. My journey still continues as I am still working to fully recover from experiencing this person in my life. I don't think anyone ever really recovers from dealing with such a monster.
My Narcissists Favorite Insults
I am adding a page my Narcissists favorite insults- after each insult I am writing how WRONG he is:
1) You are fat.
I am a size four
2) You are ugly and no man will want to touch you with a ten foot pole.
I get asked out all the time.
3) You are stupid.
I have a masters in engineering. I took his college algebra exam online for him without cracking a book and scored a 95%.
4) They (people at my workplace) will figure out how incompetent you are and you will get fired.
I have never been fired from my job and I am one of the highest ranking people in my organization. I have been promoted twice since he started saying this to me... he on the other hand has been fired at least once.
5) No other man will love you. You are lucky to be with me.
I am in a relationship with a man who adores me... I am lucky I am no longer with you.
I share these insults that my narcissists used to hurl at me, to show just how nonsensical he was. The narcissist lives in his own world and fantasies and believes in these fantastic lies. For a long time I took these insults so personally and it cut me deeply. I could not grasp why someone I loved could say such hurtful things. The narcissist does not know how to have a mature argument. Therefore, he will rely on childish behavior by resorting to vile, nasty insults.
I got to a point in our relationship, where I would just laugh at him and tell him how idiotic the things he would say to me were. This just inflammed him even more and he would come after me in other ways... sometimes physical, but often times in the most devious ways imaginable.